So we’ve made it to 2026 and already we’ve got a deficit model creeping in already…
What would happen if you just behaved differently.
What would happen if you actually stuck to what you said you’d do?
-Every Business Owner Selling You Shit in January
So I thought I’d do something a little different… I’m gonna show you exactly what to do.
This is for those who work a little outside the social norms. Who don’t fit the way you’re supposed to work and need…
A little more time?
A little more… fun?
Something freaking different.
Something that instead of just telling you to “work smarter not harder” or the New Year, New You crap is focused instead on one thing:
Helping you get to the heart of what really matters to you and making it super easy to actually do.
Step 1: Make it Visible
There are 100s of things you can do… and you can probably see them all! So we can start with the loudest.
The loudest thing is probably:
- What’s constantly poking at you behind the scenes.
- The thing(s) you keep thinking about doing, but just… can’t.
- The thing(s) you dream obsessively about but never freaking do.
If there are multiple loud things… of course there is. You’d not be struggling if there wasn’t 100 different things drawing your attention. You’d just do the thing… right?
Once you start making what’s possible visible… it’s when you can unravel all the layers of sociological crap that surrounds us every day and brings opportunities to light.
Step 2: Sense Making
A lot of the work traditional coaches do with ADHD and Autistic individuals is focused on trying to bring people back to a “default state”.
ADHD individuals are given templates, and toolkits to help “manage their time” and process. The problem with this is it’s built for a certain way of working. If it works for you great... but often I find the systems and the rebuilding the way you think reduces autonomy.
For successful autonomy you need to trust the constant relationship between yourself and the world around you no matter the experience and through your behaviours you discover the opportunities through those interactions.
How do we find these? Well that’s where Sense Making comes in...
Sense-Making is the actions we take to achieve autonomy.[1]
To make sense of the world around us we need to act.
But because of the multiple differing ways to get to the thing we want, we’ll try to do ALL of them to achieve it!
But sadly the common, popular model is our brain is “defective”. So we are taught (through forced structure) to control that uncontrollable CEO by having one solution.
The best way to do something... is look at what you want to do and responding to what’s possible in real time.
Improvising your way to success. You’re always a half-step away from the note you need at that moment. [2]
Step 3: Finding That Small Step
So the first two steps gave you the why! Now it’s time for the how. These are the three questions I ask myself whenever I’m hesitating on a decision:
What’s Loud Right Now? —There is always something that shouts louder, or bugs you... or grabs your attention. That’s the one that’s loudest.
What Were You Hoping To Do? — Now you’re checking in with what you actually wanted to do right now.
What’s Possible From Here? — Now we’re looking at what’s actually possible. Getting real curious about what’s actually feasible and what’s too much.
I used these exact questions last year when I had to record a presentation at 50% capacity after a chronic fatigue flare. One parent told me these three prompts helped her rebuild a morning routine that dissolved when toddler-life took over.
The best part is it works even when things aren’t working optimally, unlike 90% of the content this month because when you have a pain flare up, your toddler needs attention or a client emergency stops you in your tracks no amount of Notion Templates, Reflection Journals will help you actually do shit in 2026.
Want my help in doing shit this year? Let’s connect
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